For some reason, being single comes with a bad stigma. In reality, it’s the opportunity of a lifetime to be free and to do exactly what you want to do. While there are perks to being in a relationship, here are the reasons why a single life should be coveted. Dating can bring stress relief, independence, self-love, and new friends–all things couples are too sequestered to do.
Dating Around is a Good Idea
There are a number of benefits that come from casually dating a lot of people. The first–and probably most memorable–is the sex. If you’ve been having a pretty good date or even just a good conversation, there’s a chance you’ll be sexually compatible. This can make for some fun and pleasurable times. You can learn a lot about someone by what kind of sexual partner they are. Are they generous? Do they know what they’re doing? Or, even more important, do you like what they’re doing? If you’re upfront about it, you can try new tricks and positions with someone who won’t judge you. Casual sex is your chance to figure out who and what you like. It’s also a way to learn about your sexual orientation. In the sex-positive UK, it’s never been so easy to discover your sexuality without any strings attached.
Sex does wonders for your body as well as your mind. Not only does it lower blood pressure and anxiety, but it causes a release of oxytocin in the body. This is a hormone that stimulates feelings of compassion and acts as a natural sedative. So, yes, sex equals stress relief.
Another benefit of dating is that you can end up making a lot of new friends along the way. Whether or not you’re sexually compatible, a good date conversation can often lead to a good friend, and sometimes even a friend with benefits. New friends help you challenge your thoughts and behaviors, expand your point of view, and they will support you when you need them. And while you are surrounded by your mass of new friends and attractive lovers, keep in mind you cherish your alone time.
If you’re single, you probably spend a lot of time by yourself. This isn’t a bad thing. In fact, studies show that if you use your alone time to practice self-love and show yourself the same kindness you show others, you live a happier and healthier life. Being single gives you time to work on yourself. Often, people in relationships are so caught up in the problems of their partner that they don’t take the time to focus on themselves. So embrace being alone. Because alone and lonely are different states of being. When you are alone, you have the chance to process your thoughts, develop your ideas, and relax when your day is through. You only need to worry about taking care of yourself, and sometimes that exactly what the doctor ordered.
How Do I Start?
If you’re new to the single life, or ready to embrace it in full, there are a couple of things you can do to launch yourself into the unknown.
Chat Someone Up
Practice your flirting. It would be a shame to walk up to someone really interesting and falter on your smooth moves because you’re out of practice or new to the game. Talk to new people. Take a chance and talk to someone you wouldn’t normally talk to. Figure out who they are, and sift out the players from the real deal. That’s where things get fun. Above all, don’t be afraid to see multiple people. There’s nothing wrong with testing out the waters, as some people will fall away over time if it’s not a good match. Others can end up as friends. And still, others could be lifelong partners.
If you’re more of a wallflower, going right up to someone probably sounds a little daunting. Luckily, you don’t have to. If you’re in England or traveling there soon, join a network for adult dating and meet someone for a casual hookup, no strings attached. You can search for someone near you to meet up in person if you hit it off in a chat room. There’s no reason the introverts of the world shouldn’t have casual sex like anyone else.
All in all, a single life doesn’t have to be boring, lonely, or any of the other misassociations. It can be your chance to start fresh if you’re just coming off a relationship. Or, it can be the way you realize your sexual fantasies. Be brave and put yourself out there. You never know what you might find!