No matter how horrible your divorce proceedings were, you’ve managed to come through it.
It’s now time to take care of yourself, especially if you’ve spent too long focusing on caring for your former spouse.
Shift that focus onto you: your goals, your health, and your life overall.
It’s time to craft a new you.
Put Yourself First
It’s likely been a while since you’ve had the freedom to focus on yourself: self-improvement, self-care, self-love, and so on.
Take some time to take care of you!
If you’re like many women, you tend to take on a caretaking role in your relationships—and push yourself to the side in the process.
You’ve probably heard the oxygen mask analogy in terms of self-care and it’s true: you need to take care of yourself to be able to help others.
Knowing this, you still might struggle with guilt as you transition your mindset of putting yourself first.
Know that you can work through that and become a better person along the way.
Find Your Power Look
Think about how strong and beautiful you feel when you wear a great outfit.
…the idea is to create many more moments like those.
Sort through your closet (check out the KonMari method of decluttering if you’re unsure of where to start) and ask yourself, “Would the ideal me wear this?”
If you find yourself disappointed with your options, or the memories associated with them, treat yourself to a shopping spree.
Try on some different clothes to find your ideal power outfit.
Maybe that’s classic heels and blazers for women or a suit jacket and plaid skirt combo.
Whatever fits your style, looking good will inevitably help you to feel good, too.
Hire a Life Coach (or Become Your Own)
Don’t think a life coach is for you? Think again.
If you’re trying to reinvent yourself, a life coach can help you to learn more about yourself and become your ideal self.
They’ll help you to define your goals and what you need and want from your life.
Be sure to research a variety of coaches to find the best fit.
If you’re not quite ready to make that investment or you want to try before you buy, seek out free resources like podcasts, newsletters, and workshops.
You can work on your goals and get a taste of what your potential life coach can do for you.
Get Extra Focused On Your Goals (& Yourself)
It might be difficult to keep your attention on your new, you-centric priorities, and that’s okay.
Practicing mindfulness, whether through meditation or other methods, can help you to focus better when it’s time to get down to business.
Alternatively, consider trying a CBD powder drink for a burst of energy to help you work through all your self-improvement goals without the jitters you’ll get with coffee.
Many people who use CBD report feeling more relaxed, focused, and less physically tense.
Help your brain to focus on what’s most important to you.
…YOU.
Take a Breath
In moving through marriage, divorce, and your new relationship with yourself, a lot is going on in your life.
You might need a break, which is entirely okay.
Let yourself relax for a bit.
Take a cheat day on your diet, watch an extra episode of your favorite Netflix show.
Stop and breathe.
Your goals will still be here tomorrow.
No matter how much you’ve had to struggle through the divorce proceedings, you can and will come back stronger than ever.
Focus on you and let yourself become your deal version of you.
Make your dream life your reality.
And know that no matter how difficult things may seem, you deserve to be your most amazing self.
